To the women who are longing, grieving, desiring…
Spring is a season filled with new life, from the joy of Easter, the warmer air and sunshine after the dead of winter, to new blooms and buds springing up from the earth. But as the earth and all that is in it reechoes this mantra, for some women it may only serve as a reminder of the life they are not able to carry within them.
As women we have an emptiness inside of us made to be filled with new life; to carry, nourish and give birth to new creation. This is a beautiful gift and natural longing. When for one reason or another it doesn’t happen, it instead leaves us feeling empty and so alone. It can lead to grief and anger, and sometimes even resentment for our very bodies that seem to be continually failing us.
You are not alone, 1 in 8 couples struggle to have children due to infertility. Infertility affects many couples, but often it is not something readily discussed or talked about. Many women feel alone, because it can be hard to find someone in their circle of family or friends who may be able to relate.
You have a right to grieve, even when it seems like your feelings are dismissed. Comments from others may seem insensitive and harsh, underlying the person has good intention, but may not know the correct words to say. Don’t take them personally, they are more unlikely trying to offer comfort in the best way they know how.
You are beautifully and wonderfully made, although it seems something is lacking, you are whole and complete.
Mary Beth says
This is beautiful…sooooooo good. Thank you!
Sarah J. says
Hey Cassie! Nice blog! Beautiful blog. We need to talk sometime.
You know, your 8th grade religion teacher… we should share about many things… infertility, marriage, adoption, surgeries, doctors, grief, loss, confusion, fear…. and faith, joy, trust, commitment, long-suffering…. thank you for sharing. It helps many! Many God surprise you every day!